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'I thought he was going to kill someone'

'I thought he was going to kill someone'

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'He moved in and I didn't feel safe anymore'
A woman whose partner's jail term for stalking her was overturned has revealed it was the fear he might kill someone that drove her to alert police.Bethany Haines, daughter of murdered aid worker David Haines, watched the man who "stole a year of her life" walk free from prison in January.Instead of finishing a 21-month jail term, he was released on appeal and will do 200 hours of community service. Bethany has vowed to change the law to protect victims of emotional abuse.At just 20 years old, Bethany has endured more than most.
Her aid worker father David was held hostage in Syria for 18 months and then murdered by Islamic State in 2014, when she was just 17.After leaving school early to have her son Aiden, now two, she found herself in an emotionally-abusive relationship in her late teens.In October last year, Andrew Murray was jailed for stalking her and for controlling behaviour, over a six-month period in 2016.
Bethany Haines feared her partner would hurt someone if she left him
Andrew Murray admitted causing 'fear or alarm'
The court was told Bethany had been in an on-off relationship with Murray, who was jealous of her male friends and would accuse her of being unfaithful to him.He was said to have subjected her to a "degrading and humiliating" campaign of abuse for six months while they were in a relationship.In one incident, Murray ripped up a "treasured" scrapbook dedicated to Bethany's late father because he was jealous of a photograph of her former partner.
'Scared and belittled'
Murray repeatedly checked her mobile phone and social media messages, and insisted she remove about 50 male friends from her Facebook account.He also tampered with her phone contacts list, changing a friend's number to his own so he received messages sent to the friend by Bethany.The court was told Ms Haines felt "scared and belittled".But on 9 January, Murray's jail term was dropped at Perth Sheriff Court after appeal court judges ruled the sentence too severe.
Bethany Haines kept a "treasured scrapbook" to remember her father, but Murray destroyed it
Bethany fled the court in disgust. She said: "It was my biggest fear realised, my worst fear in coming forward in the first place - that I wouldn't be believed."When they brought up the community payback order I had to leave the courtroom because it was as if I wasn't being believed."It took a long time for me to come forward and it seems to have been for nothing."Bethany had not felt brave enough to press charges until she found out Murray had behaved like this before.Last month, the Scottish Parliament passed a new Domestic Abuse Act which criminalised psychological and emotional abuse as well as violence.Bethany says she hopes victims are more easily believed. "There is a sense of mistrust when you go into a police station to make a statement," she says."I would be willing to talk to the Scottish Parliament and tell them my story to help get things changed."Bethany is now attending college and wants to be a trauma counsellor.
Bethany Haines and her son Aiden are moving on with their lives after her abuse ordeal
But she is still recovering from the ordeal. She said: "The hardest thing was getting back to learn how to have a normal life again. "I had to ask for permission to do everything - coming out of it I was still asking my mum if I could use the toilet, asking if I could get a drink, go out and see a friend."I was asking permission to do all these basic needs. It's unbelievable somebody can take away all your freedom like that and think it's okay."She also hopes her father would be proud she is taking a stand.She said: "My dad would be proud to see that I've moved on and I want to do something with my life that really matters."
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